In exactly six months at 3:00pm, I will be married to my best friend. In six months I might also share these posts with my fiancé. This is my take on the good, the bad and the ugly with six months to go of being a bride before I become a wife.
Dan and I have been together for about a year and a half and have been engaged for just over five months. He truly is my best friend and knowing that I get to wake up to his face every morning for the rest of my life is truly the biggest blessing I could ask for.
So far our engagement has consisted of planning and beginning the build of our house and we are still together so that’s a good sign. We are two very strong headed individuals and building this house has presented us with many opinionated challenges, but we have been learning to communicate and work through our disagreements which has only made our relationship stronger. There has been a lot of laughter as well which makes me love Dan more everyday. Sometimes we run around like we are 12 years old swiping our hands through the other person’s butt at the most unexpected times and yelling, “credit card! … Declined!” Before running away. Do this to your spouse and I swear it will bring happy laughs and smiles all day long, life is too short to be too serious all of the time.
Obviously with an engagement comes wedding planning. There has been some of that going on too.. mainly by me. I already have thoughts on what I would do differently next time, BUT there isn’t going to be a next time, so I can only pass on my thoughts to future brides.
If I could change anything so far it would be how we created our guest list. We should have taken our ideal guest number and divided it in half, allowing for each of us to invite a certain number. Things got a little out of hand with large families and large friend groups and we have ended up inviting almost 50 more people than we intended. It might not seem like a lot, but when it comes to all of the expenses for the dinner/ reception it is.
The wedding planning is where the ugly comes in. Maybe I sound like a bridezilla right now and I am sorry if I do. It has amazed me how some people automatically try to make our big day about their kids. We are having a child free reception and ceremony by choice and this has some people surprisingly shook. We want parents to take the night off to come and celebrate with us and enjoy themselves for one evening. I have had people tell me they will not attended unless they can bring their kids which really blows my mind. Even when I am a parent I will respect the requests of others at their events. We also only gave plus ones to our friends and family members who are married or in serious long term relationships, there has also been some complaining by people who aren’t even in relationships about this. I feel bad that I can’t make everyone happy, but we have a budget to work with. This has been the only ugly part so far.
The rest of the wedding planning has gone smoothly. The fun planning (but I’m sure very energy taxing planning) is all that’s left. Choosing floral, decorations, helping my bridesmaids find their dresses.. things I am actually looking forward to. I even picked up my wedding dress yesterday! It’s about 2 dress sizes too big and I should have clued in that I am not a size 4 when they were measuring me.
With our trip to Vegas down we are back to focusing on the house. We are about three weeks behind schedule, but March will be dedicated to a trip to Vancouver for our kitchen cabinets and a trip to Calgary for our birthdays. We are house boating on May long weekend and would like to be moved into the house before then. I’m looking forward to all of our plans and to continue to watch Dan build our beautiful house. These past 6 months have been so amazing, I can only imagine what the next 6 leading up to our wedding will consist of.